tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post5765050924837432224..comments2023-10-12T03:40:53.964-04:00Comments on These Gentlemen: It's a ChoiceDavid Pratthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09741107987673246357noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-78120232433381182052009-01-31T10:04:00.000-05:002009-01-31T10:04:00.000-05:00To clarify - I'm not saying to rush into anything....To clarify - I'm not saying to rush into anything. Do whatever you feel you need to do.<BR/><BR/>But I do strongly believe it's not you're incapable - it's that you've made a decision that right now that isn't best for you. Being unable to do something, and deciding that something isn't the best option are two very different things. POerhaps it's a subtle distinction, but a very meaningful one to me.<BR/><BR/>Fear is an absolutely important survival technique - but the ability to overcome fear is even more important to me personally.Jason Heathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15411144857939292461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-15480673268898975792009-01-31T03:28:00.000-05:002009-01-31T03:28:00.000-05:00I disagree- I believe the state of distrust is not...I disagree- I believe the state of distrust is not a choice. Your mind takes into account all that has happened, and weighs the odds of good versus bad, and if it decides (for the sake of this argument) that it can't trust again, the power of will can't- nay, SHOULDN'T- try to overcome the decisions of the mind. <BR/> <BR/> I'm gonna use the biological/darwinist approach here and say that each person alive today is alive because each of their parents' brain kept them alive and successfully led its body and soul to reproduce. These connections our brains have made for thousands of years have protected us from many dangers- predators, natural disasters, and (the most relevant danger in this argument) emotional trauma. Basically what I'm saying is, if we can't trust for a little while, there's a good reason for it- it's going to protect us for this moment in time when we've been weakened. When we need protection most. As soon as we let the emotional wounds scab over and finally heal, then we can, and naturally will, trust again.<BR/> <BR/> Perhaps that was obvious, but I feel the author is saying one should rush the process- make a premature leap of faith and use our will to pretend we trust when we really don't. I believe we should just take time, let the emotional scarring heal, and once we've seen reassuring signs fom the universe that people can be trusted, THEN we naturally trust again. The period of mistrust is necessary, and NOT a choice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-20144150689587153492009-01-30T20:42:00.000-05:002009-01-30T20:42:00.000-05:00I'd say The Question is everywhereI'd say The Question is everywhereOzkirbashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058172749734459717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-28429048748608335302009-01-30T18:39:00.000-05:002009-01-30T18:39:00.000-05:00I'd say everything is The Question, wouldn't you?I'd say everything is The Question, wouldn't you?Jason Heathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15411144857939292461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-51487540542375330852009-01-30T18:10:00.000-05:002009-01-30T18:10:00.000-05:00Or perhaps after having multiple experiences you s...Or perhaps after having multiple experiences you start to realise that you need more than trust when entering a relationship. The factors become multi-dimensional, and you realise that you must first achieve a degree of independence/ self confidence that will then yield, not only the trust but also the desire to take the risks. Sometimes people need to be alone for a combination of intrinsic and extrinsic reasons, being alone is not a permanent state, it is an attempt to discover yourself well enough to not keep falling into 6-12 month relationships that are structurally ubiquitous and yield the same set of problems (the problems you attempt to identify primarily, and cope with secondarily). <BR/><BR/>yes to trust is a choice, but no to feel as though it is worth it to trust right now isn't. It is just a feeling, so is bitterness, and no feeling lies higher on the hierarchy of feelings we "should" be feeling according to anyone else, they are simply feelings (and no one can help which one they have, at least the strong ones).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-79407873224568318332009-01-30T17:40:00.000-05:002009-01-30T17:40:00.000-05:00Definitely not The QuestionDefinitely not The QuestionOzkirbashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058172749734459717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-48738505603361350562009-01-30T15:20:00.000-05:002009-01-30T15:20:00.000-05:00Pretty much.Maybe Vibe.Pretty much.<BR/><BR/>Maybe Vibe.Jason Heathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15411144857939292461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-8779607757286070352009-01-30T15:18:00.000-05:002009-01-30T15:18:00.000-05:00So . . . Hawkman?So . . . Hawkman?David Pratthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09741107987673246357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-17505520430560733042009-01-30T15:12:00.000-05:002009-01-30T15:12:00.000-05:00Ha. I actually thought you'd have more to say.Ha. <BR/><BR/>I actually thought you'd have more to say.Jason Heathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15411144857939292461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-17401738175721661532009-01-30T13:59:00.000-05:002009-01-30T13:59:00.000-05:00I'm confused as to which Justice League member thi...I'm confused as to which Justice League member this is profiling.David Pratthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09741107987673246357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-16359949195792443632009-01-30T12:04:00.000-05:002009-01-30T12:04:00.000-05:00Well said. On both accounts.Well said. On both accounts.Ozkirbashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058172749734459717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-21000200206745464882009-01-30T11:36:00.000-05:002009-01-30T11:36:00.000-05:00It's resignation. People find misery and depressi...It's resignation. People find misery and depression to be a steady state where they can be, if not happy, at least stable... where things can't get any worse. <BR/><BR/>I don't believe in "rock bottom." If you let your life continue to fall apart, it will. Things can always get worse. As bad as I've felt I've ever had it, history (and country music) are filled with tales of those who've had it worse... people who very well could have been me.<BR/><BR/>But things can always get better. Sometimes you might have a setback so jarring and severe that it will feel like rock bottom, but you have to have the presence of mind to find your salvation in the recoil. <BR/><BR/>I've been lied to. I've been ignored. I've been put down and insulted. I've been used and abused. <BR/><BR/>Living well is the best revenge, and I'm still fucking here. :-)Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12837361505534305694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1848471753025049912.post-9205989310961208792009-01-30T06:19:00.000-05:002009-01-30T06:19:00.000-05:00Not a bad epiphany for 0-dark-30. Keep choosingNot a bad epiphany for 0-dark-30. Keep choosingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com